The reason to live?

The reason to live?

Here’s how it happens: You live your life in dedication to your partner or to your child or to what you believe is your life’s work, day by day, with the usual ups and downs that are part of it all.

Then suddenly the one you have dedicated yourself to is gone forever, and your life falls apart.

It is beyond comprehension. The pain is excruciating, and all you can do is just try to survive it and to cope with it somehow. Your friends, family and neighbors come to help.

But then, after a while, because they can’t bear to see so much suffering, they start pushing you, ever so gently (and sometimes not so gently):  “It’s time to move on,” they say, “You need you start doing something with your life.”

Do something? Move on?

How are you supposed to do anything when you have lost your very reason to live? That’s the question – and it leaves you without answers.

Well, I’m here today to show you that your situation is not as hopeless as it feels, and that answers can be found after all.

The thing is that under the kind of of emotional, mental and practical strain that you’re experiencing, it’s nearly impossible to see the real reason why your loss led you to meaninglessness.

It’s not only because the death of your loved one appears meaningless in itself.

It’s also because the relationship with your partner constituted the very meaning of your life.

Your love was what you lived for.

So now that your life together is over there’s nowhere you want to go. There’s nothing you want to do. You are trapped in a meaningless void.

Your life’s true purpose is still here

Even if you cannot feel it right now, your life’s true purpose is more powerful than you can imagine. You can never lose it. It is here, and it is waiting for you to find it when the time is right.

Perhaps you have felt it already, like a yearning. Perhaps you have tried to find a purpose and a meaning by reading and thinking about it, by searching your past and your soul. Perhaps you even gained a general idea of what it is – or maybe not. In any case, an idea is not enough.

Your purpose, the meaning of your life and your ultimate reason to live is not an idea. It is more like life itself:

It is something that resides in every cell of your body. It’s in the way you feel and think. It’s in your soul. It is such a natural part of you that you cannot even see it.